In this conversation I introduce a useful analogy that might help us to understand why we need not take on the blame yet at the same time take responsibility in order to move forward. I also share experiences from the book ‘The Phoenix The Shooter and The Snake, that outline the most important contributors that I believe led to unhappiness in my previous relationship. As a side note to those listening and have not yet stepped over the edge into the abyss of broken trust, all of these contributors could have been solved with good counselling if it hadn’t been for the bomb of infidelity that destroyed any change of re-cultivating our love for one another. We also briefly touch on how some personalities are possibly more prone to infidelity based on the big five scale.
References:
– https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magi…
– https://mytherapistnc.org/blog/how-go…
Interesting studies linking certain personality types with a higher probability of committing infidelity
• Study linking high narcissism, low agreeableness, and low conscientiousness to infidelity: Jonason, P. K., Li, N. P., Webster, G. D., & Schmitt, D. P. (2009).
The dark triad: Facilitating a short-term mating strategy in men. European Journal of Personality, 23(1), 5-18.
• Study linking sensation-seeking to infidelity: Mark, K. P., Janssen, E., & Milhausen, R. R. (2011). Infidelity in heterosexual couples: demographic, interpersonal, and personality-related predictors of extradyadic sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 971-982.
• Study linking high conscientiousness to lower likelihood of infidelity: Roberts, B. W., Kuncel, N. R., Shiner, R., Caspi, A., & Goldberg, L. R. (2007). The power of personality: The comparative validity of personality traits, socioeconomic status, and cognitive ability for predicting important life outcomes. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2(4), 313-345.
• Study linking high agreeableness to lower likelihood of infidelity: Mark, K. P., Janssen, E., & Milhausen, R. R. (2011). Infidelity in heterosexual couples: demographic, interpersonal, and personality-related predictors of extradyadic sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 971-982.
• Study linking high extraversion and sensation-seeking to infidelity: Mark, K. P., Janssen, E., & Milhausen, R. R. (2011). Infidelity in heterosexual couples: demographic, interpersonal, and personality-related predictors of extradyadic sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 971-982.